Care for yourself
All of us have been travelling by plane already and we all know, there is a whole ceremony about security on board to be born, before we can start our journey. Maybe you remember the part, where the loss of cabine pressure is being treated, and the advice to provide yourself with the oxygen mask first, before you help others.
I really like this principle. But not for egoistic reasons. Basically, it is hard to imagine helping people with things that you can't even help yourself with. This is almost a matter of course for technical topics. I first have to master the subject myself before I can support others with their questions. Nobody would think of helping a colleague with something of which they themselves have no idea. The situation is often different in so-called soft topics. Here the understanding is missing that one can deal with stressful situations only with difficulty oneself, but gives others however wise pieces of advice in dealing with it.
Some months ago I tried out John Stepper's new offer in a small, international circle. A Working Out Loud program for Self Care called WOL SC. In which exactly the basis for this can be laid. I look after myself here, after my very personal things that I like to avoid working on because it might feel uncomfortable. I give myself the opportunity to get to know myself better and to accept my downsides. And I do this in a peer coaching situation where I gradually build trust and learn to open myself to others as well as to my issues. Here, too, it is the classic coaching exercises, spread over six months, that help me to pay more attention to myself. And here it is above all the exchange with the peers that helps me to reflect and make this form of self-perception a habit. And if I have made this form of Self Care my own, I can also support others more authentically. Not because I now have all the answers and know how to do it. But because I practice it with myself.